I've talked to a lot of women whose spouses have not been as supportive and give an ultimatum to their wives that goes something like this - "it's disposables only or I'm not changing diapers." Seriously? I feel like we might be able to find some compromise here.
Cloth diapering has come a LONG way. Many kinds, such as all-in-ones, work just like a disposable. Give something a try and see what works for you. Ladies, find out what your men like and stock up! You may like one type or brand of diaper while your hubby likes another, so see it as a positive that he has an opinion and go with it. For awhile, I had pockets and hybrids in my stash and I noticed that my husband was always reaching for the hybrids. I finally asked him why he always goes for those and he told me that the pockets were just more work for me with all the stuffing (he's so thoughtful) and didn't seem as efficient of a system. He had a point! A week later I sold all my pockets and we are exclusively using a hybrid system during the day at home. Side note: This was a fantastic excuse to buy more diapers!
If it's the poop that's bothering your man, he can do what my husband does...leave it for me to clean up. I also do all the laundering of the diapers, but in my husband's defense, it's because I don't let him. I'm a bit of a control freak when it comes to who can wash my diapers, so the load falls on me, but admittedly by choice.
For you ladies out there who have tried everything and still can't get your spouse on board, then I hope you still feel you are able to cloth diaper even if it means most of the diapering duties fall on you.